God Stepped In

‭‭God Stepped In

Written by Felicia McKnight

10/5/16

Job‬ ‭33:26-28‬ ‭MSG‬‬

““Or, you may fall on your knees and pray—to God’s delight! You’ll see God’s smile and celebrate, finding yourself set right with God. You’ll sing God’s praises to everyone you meet, testifying, ‘I messed up my life— and let me tell you, it wasn’t worth it. But God stepped in and saved me from certain death. I’m alive again! Once more I see the light!’”

In today’s scripture passage Job is in a place of reflection and gratitude. If you have ever been at rock bottom or tangled in a web of your own poor choices and mistakes, then you can relate. Have you ever been in a place where your life was completely messed up because of your own wrong choice? Maybe it was due to connecting with the wrong person, a lifestyle of sin, or just constantly making bad decisions. As a result you found yourself dealing with the consequences and as Job described life became messed up for you. Maybe you are in that place today.

“This poor man called, and the Lord heard him; he saved him out of all his troubles. The angel of the Lord encamps around those who fear him, and he delivers them.” ‭‭(Psalm‬ ‭34:6-7‬ ‭NIV)‬‬

The good news is when you find yourself in this predicament help is closer than it appears. If you truly desire God’s deliverance, then you have to completely surrender your life and your own will to God. You have to seek His forgiveness and allow Him to step in and transform your heart and mind. You have to allow God to be Lord over every area of your life. We see from the lives of people like Job, Abraham, and David that God can turn mess into miracles.

God’s grace, His covering, and His protection covers His children when you live a yielded life to Him. When you humble yourself before God He will step in and save you from your own destructive ways. God is a deliverer. He desires the abundant life for you. God sent Jesus on the cross to pay for your sins and pave the way for righteous living. Whatever you are going through today stop and seek God’s will for your life. You may still have to endure consequences of your actions, but the good news is God’s forgiveness and grace covers you and leads you from a destructive path to a path of righteousness.

“The eyes of the Lord are on the righteous, and his ears are attentive to their cry;” (Psalm‬ ‭34:15‬ ‭NIV‬‬)

Be blessed and be encouraged.

Prayer

Lord, thank you for your grace. Thank you that when we cry out to you for help and to save us from our own destructive ways that you hear our cry. Lord we praise you that when we surrender to you, that you will deliver us. Help, every person reading this who finds themselves making the same mistakes and poor choices over and over again. Help those who are at rock bottom or headed there because of their own sin. Lord, give them the wisdom to know their wrong doings and the strength to turn from them. Strengthen each person and help them to know when to walk away from people and circumstances. Lord, I pray that they will not conform to the patterns of this world, but that their minds will be renewed to know your good and perfect will for their lives. Father, send peace, healing, protection, provision, wisdom, deliverance, and salvation to all those who stand in need. In Jesus name. Amen

Freedom From The Promiscuous Woman – Part II

Freedom From The Promiscuous Woman – Part II
Written by Felicia McKnight
7/27/2016

Proverbs 2:16 NLT
“Wisdom will save you from the immoral woman, from the seductive words of the promiscuous woman.”

Where things become challenging for most of us is the turning away from sin. When sin becomes a stronghold it is difficult to break free from it in the power of our own flesh. At the point of salvation the Holy Spirit dwelled within you. God’s word says in 1 John 4:4 NLT:

“But you belong to God, my dear children. You have already won a victory over those people, because the Spirit who lives in you is greater than the spirit who lives in the world.”

While it may be difficult to break free God has already declared your victory over sin. The Holy Spirit that dwells inside of you is greater than the worldly ways. To break free you have to rely on the power of the Holy Spirit, prayer, and sometimes the prayers of others.

“We use God’s mighty weapons, not worldly weapons, to knock down the strongholds of human reasoning and to destroy false arguments.” ‭‭2 Corinthians‬ ‭10:4‬ ‭NLT‬‬

We use the weapons God has given us to fight off sin. Find out what God’s word says about your sin. Meditate on it daily and allow it to take root in your mind and soul. Allow the word to destroy the lies the enemy has placed in your mind to justify sinful ways. Sometimes deliverance from sin is immediate. You pray and all of a sudden you don’t want to do those things anymore. Then there are times deliverance from sin may not always be immediate. It’s a process. But little by little you will be set free.

The process is a lot like taking medicine when healing from an illness. You may not feel the change over night, but if you keep taking your medicine by meditating and praying eventually the change will come. Every time the thought and desires arise use the word to speak the truth over your life.

There may be times it is difficult to change on your own. You may be dealing with things you don’t want anyone to know about. Perhaps you feel ashamed or embarrassed for your actions. You know your struggle and you want to change but the stronghold is so heavy it seems impossible. What do you do in this situation?

You need to pull it the additional weapon of a prayer partner. Pray and find a non judgmental prayer partner that you can confide in and one who will pray you through. Ask God to show you who that person is. Often times we are so weak that this individual has a clear perspective that can help you see the truths and pray you through.

“Are any of you sick? You should call for the elders of the church to come and pray over you, anointing you with oil in the name of the Lord. Such a prayer offered in faith will heal the sick, and the Lord will make you well. And if you have committed any sins, you will be forgiven. Confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The earnest prayer of a righteous person has great power and produces wonderful results.” ‭‭James‬ ‭5:14-16‬ ‭NLT‬‬

It’s also important to remember that once God forgives you that you need to forgive yourself. Once you are forgiven…..you are forgiven and who the son sets free is free indeed. Be blessed and be encouraged!

“So now there is no condemnation for those who belong to Christ Jesus. And because you belong to him, the power of the life-giving Spirit has freed you from the power of sin that leads to death.” Romans‬ ‭8:1-2‬ ‭NLT‬‬

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Freedom From The Promiscuous Woman – Part I

Prayer
Heavenly Father, Thank you for Jesus death on the cross. Thank you that he accomplished victory over sin in our life. Thank you for the Holy Spirit that dwells within in us. Farther, we come declaring victory over every area of our life. We thank you that we are forgiven and we are set free. In Jesus Name. Amen

Freedom From The Promiscuous Woman – Part I

Freedom From The Promiscuous Woman – Part I
Written by Felicia McKnight
7/20/2016

Proverbs 2:16-19 NLT
16 Wisdom will save you from the immoral woman,
from the seductive words of the promiscuous woman.
17 She has abandoned her husband
and ignores the covenant she made before God.
18 Entering her house leads to death;
it is the road to the grave.
19 The man who visits her is doomed.
He will never reach the paths of life.

Throughout the Bible God typically uses the analogy of a prostitute or promiscuous woman to describe sin and the continuous comfort of living in it. One definition of a prostitute is to put to unworthy use. To God sin is unworthy. It lacks excellence in God’s kingdom and is not of His character. Sin is like a prostitute because it can look good and feel good. Sin can be enticing and lure us away from righteous living.

Here the scripture defines sin as the “immoral woman”. It’s not conforming with God’s word. Because sin “feels good” it’s easy to get caught up and continue doing the same thing that is not pleasing to God. Sin can be captivating and seductive. We all sin in some respect, however, we each have or have had that one sin that is a constant struggle to become delivered from. It becomes a stronghold. In some cases we can become so easily entangled in sin that our relationship with God becomes more distant causing a spiritual death. We continuously make up excuses to justify the sin rather than acknowledging God’s word to break free from it.

“And remember, when you are being tempted, do not say, “God is tempting me.” God is never tempted to do wrong, and he never tempts anyone else. Temptation comes from our own desires, which entice us and drag us away. These desires give birth to sinful actions. And when sin is allowed to grow, it gives birth to death.” James‬ ‭1:13-15‬ ‭NLT‬‬

Sin and the struggle in it is real, but God has given us hope and the tools to break free.

“Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a huge crowd of witnesses to the life of faith, let us strip off every weight that slows us down, especially the sin that so easily trips us up. And let us run with endurance the race God has set before us. (2) We do this by keeping our eyes on Jesus, the champion who initiates and perfects our faith. Because of the joy awaiting him, he endured the cross, disregarding its shame. Now he is seated in the place of honor beside God’s throne.” Hebrews‬ ‭12:1-2‬ ‭NLT‬‬

Our hope in freedom from sin is Jesus death on the cross. He died so that we would have victory over sin and we tap into this victory through the free gift of salvation.

“ sin is the sting that results in death, and the law gives sin its power. But thank God! He gives us victory over sin and death through our Lord Jesus Christ.” ‭‭1 Corinthians‬ ‭15:56-57‬ ‭NLT‬‬

1) Receive the gift of salvation.

“If you openly declare that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. For it is by believing in your heart that you are made right with God, and it is by openly declaring your faith that you are saved.” ‭‭Romans‬ ‭10:9-10‬ ‭NLT‬‬

2) Have a desire to change.

“Create in me a clean heart, O God. Renew a loyal spirit within me.” ‭‭Psalms‬ ‭51:10‬ ‭NLT‬‬

3) Seek God for forgiveness.

“But if we confess our sins to him, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all wickedness.” ‭‭1 John‬ ‭1:9‬ ‭NLT‬‬

4) Turn from sinful ways.

“repent of your sins and turn to God, so that your sins may be wiped away.” Acts of the Apostles‬ ‭3:19‬ ‭NLT‬‬

What if you’re saved, you’ve asked God forgiveness, yet you still find it difficult to turn from your particular sin? I will answer that next week. Until then, be blessed and be encouraged.

Prayer
Heavenly Father, thank you for Jesus death on the cross that paved the way for us to be forgiven for our sins. Lord, we ask for your forgiveness today from anything we have said or done that has not lined up with your word. Create in us a clean heart and renew a right spirit within us. Give us to discernment to know what those sins are and the wisdom and strength to turn and repent from them completely. In Jesus Name. Amen

The Book of Revelation – Part III

The Book of Revelation – Part III
Written by Felicia McKnight
6/22/16

“And God will wipe away every tear from their eyes; there shall be no more death, nor sorrow, nor crying. There shall be no more pain, for the former things have passed away.” Then He who sat on the throne said, “Behold, I make all things new.” And He said to me, “Write, for these words are true and faithful.” (‭‭Revelation‬ ‭21:4-5‬ ‭NKJV‬‬)‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬

After the tribulation and the destruction of Babylon and the destruction of the enemy Revelation ends with the grand finale and what the entire Bible builds us up to. God will introduce those who are saved to the New Heaven and the New Earth. The old earth is tainted by sin. Heaven is the eternal life God has promised believers. God will dwell with us and be among us in the new heaven. There will be nothing to be afraid of. Our new home will be a place of continuous worship to our Heavenly Father and Heaven will radiate in beauty. It will be peaceful and the things that weighed us down and burdened us on earth will be no more.

“The foundations of the wall of the city were adorned with all kinds of precious stones: the first foundation was jasper, the second sapphire, the third chalcedony, the fourth emerald, the fifth sardonyx, the sixth sardius, the seventh chrysolite, the eighth beryl, the ninth topaz, the tenth chrysoprase, the eleventh jacinth, and the twelfth amethyst. The twelve gates were twelve pearls: each individual gate was of one pearl. And the street of the city was pure gold, like transparent glass.” (‭‭Revelation‬ ‭21:19-21‬ ‭NKJV‬‬)‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬

If you’ve ever marveled over the beauty of light as it reflects off of gems and glass, then you already have a slight glimpse of the physical beauty of eternity. There will no longer be any curses as a result of sin. It will be a perfect place where sin is gone, decaying bodies gone, evil gone. If you’ve watched the news lately, then what we see now will be no more. No more of people dying of sickness, no more massive killings and terrorist attacks, no more murders, no more evil. Satan can’t get in. Heaven will have walls to keep the inhabitants secure forever. We will reside with God. God will be among us. We will be His people and He will be our God. God will prove His faithfulness to us once again. His Shekinah glory will be the light of the city and the sun and moon will no longer be needed. The River of Life will flow through the city which is God’s everlasting presence. We will have full access to our creator.

Then I heard something like the voice of a great multitude and like the sound of many waters and like the sound of mighty peals of thunder, saying, “Hallelujah! For the Lord our God, the Almighty, reigns. “Let us rejoice and be glad and give the glory to Him, for the marriage of the Lamb has come and His bride has made herself ready.”
(Revelation 19:6-7)

Only those whose names are written in the Lamb’s book of life are permitted to this wonderful place where we will reign forever and ever and ever with Him. We will worship Him for all He has done. If you haven’t received Christ as your Lord and Savior and repented of your sins, then now is the time. Don’t be left out of this marvelous blessing that God has in store! Receive Christ today, so that we can all one day meet in a perfect place where we will bow down as a community of believers to our master and worship among the angels.

And all the angels were standing around the throne and around the elders and the four living creatures; and they fell on their faces before the throne and worshiped God, saying, “Amen, blessing and glory and wisdom and thanksgiving and honor and power and might, be to our God forever and ever Amen.” (Revelation 7:11-12 NLT)

God’s promise of eternal life is for all those who are willing to believe and trust in Him! The gift of Salvation is free to you and to those we love. Be blessed and Be Encouraged.

Prayer
Heavenly Father, we continue to pray for those who do not know you as their Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. We pray that the unsaved will surrender, repent of their sins, and receive your free gift of salvation. We thank you that you are in complete and total control. We thank you that the evil we see today will be no more. We thank you that satan will be defeated and that those whose names are written in the book of Life will reside with you for eternity. Lord, we chose to worship you today for who you are. We thank you that you are a faithful God. We thank you that you are a sovereign God. We thank you that you love us unconditionally. We thank you that you will reign and rule forever. All glory, honor, and praise belong to you our holy, living, eternal God. We give you all the glory, the honor, and the praise. In Jesus name. Amen!

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The Book of Revelation – Part I
The Book of Revelation – Part II

The Book of Revelation – Part II

The Book of Revelation – Part II
Written by Felicia McKnight
6/15/16

John 3:18 NLT
“There is no judgment against anyone who believes in him. But anyone who does not believe in him has already been judged for not believing in God’s one and only Son.”

A majority of the Book of Revelation is spent describing a period of judgement and the great Tribulation. This is the time all hell will break loose (no pun intended). Several events will take place to once again get God’s people to repent and turn to Him. There will be devastation and destruction. Things will become harsher on earth, but there will still be a small window of opportunity to repent and turn to Christ. Revelation points out some of the sins that people are engaged in: idolatry, murder, sexual immorality, drug abuse, witchcraft, and theft. The enemy, known as the beast, will be deceptive. There will be a time in Revelation that even after all of the destruction and individuals seeing various parts of the earth destroyed that they will still chose to cling to things of the world and follow the beast. I concluded that since there is such a large portion of Revelation dedicated to the tribulation that God wanted to ensure that we knew and understood the magnitude of what would take place if we did not repent and turn to Him. It’s almost as if God is saying “Are you sure you want to remain worldly and follow the beast?”

We all have friends and loved ones who are unsaved and clinging to a sinful lifestyle. As I read through Revelation it hurt my heart to know the magnitude of their suffering if they don’t receive the free gift of God’s salvation. It doesn’t matter if they think they were born one way or suffering because of what someone did to them. As Christians we have to be bold enough to remind the lost that Christ loves them so much that He does not want to leave them where they are all messed up. We have to be bold enough to proclaim the Gospel and remind them that God sent His one and only son Jesus Christ on the cross to save and change them.

“Do not love the world or the things in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him. For all that is in the world—the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life—is not of the Father but is of the world. And the world is passing away, and the lust of it; but he who does the will of God abides forever.” (1 John 2:15-17 NKJV)

The final defeat will be the Fall of Babylon which in summary is a kingdom of evil and all things opposite of God. Babylon is referred to as a prostitute in Chapter 18 which represents lust and cravings that lured people in rather than people loving and enjoying God. It’s a place where mankind preferred wealth, excessive consumption, and self-pleasure over the things of God. There will even be a time where believers will stray from God and cling to the ways of the world by accepting what current culture considers valuable and right even though it goes against the word of God. Babylon will ultimately fall and be destroyed. Those pleasures and enjoyments will be gone forever.

“And he cried mightily with a loud voice, saying, “Babylon the great is fallen, is fallen, and has become a dwelling place of demons, a prison for every foul spirit, and a cage for every unclean and hated bird!” (Revelation 18:2 NKJV)

God desires for us to love Him and Him only. It can be so easy to get caught up in the lusts of the eyes. It’s so easy to get caught up in things that seem to be more comforting than God such as job security, possessions, cars, or any material thing. We have to remember as Christians that we are to be sanctified which means set apart and holy. It means denying our self. God calls us to remove ourselves from anyone or anything that will compromise our faith and obedience to Him. When we trust God we live a different life than the world. We must love God more by choosing to leave what pulls us away from Him. God is the only hope and He is the only one who can truly satisfy us and fill our needs.

“If then you were raised with Christ, seek those things which are above, where Christ is, sitting at the right hand of God. Set your mind on things above, not on things on the earth.” (Colossians 3:1-2)

As believers we are called to be the light and God’s example to draw others into His kingdom with us. We are to keep our hearts and minds set on God. This is the message of the book of Revelation. God just wants us all to love Him more than we love sin and the ways of the world. He is giving each of us the opportunity to repent. Reading the book of Revelation placed a fire in me to want to pray more frequently for the lost. Revelation ends by describing that beautiful place God has for us called Heaven where we will reside with Him for eternity. How tragic would that be not to share this glory with those we love. God loves His church and who He loves He disciplines. What will it take for our friends and loved ones to let go and cling to God? We don’t want to see them suffer any more than we want that in our own lives, so saints it’s time to pray and intercede like never before!

“I urge you, first of all, to pray for all people. Ask God to help them; intercede on their behalf, and give thanks for them.” (‭‭1 Timothy‬ ‭2:1‬ ‭NLT‬‬)‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬

Regardless of all of the evil we see now and all of the evil that is to come the good news is that Satan will be defeated and destroyed! He will be thrown into the lake of fire forever. Sin will be destroyed. Those that chose not to repent and reject Jesus will also be destroyed and thrown into the lake of fire. God will make everything right again in his eyes.

I will continue next week on my study of Revelation. Until then, some things to ponder on:
• What pulls at your heart, dominates your thoughts, and drains your energy?
• Do you place your hope in what will not last or what is eternal?
• Who do you need to pray salvation for?

If you are reading this today, then there is still time to repent of sins and anything that has pulled you away from God. There is still time to pray for our unsaved friends and loved ones. If you do not know Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior then it is not too late to repent. There is still time for salvation today to turn to God and live according to His ways.

Until we meet again, be blessed and be encouraged!

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Prayer
Heavenly Father, Thank you for being a God who is compassionate, gracious, slow to anger and abounding in love. Father forgive us for our sins and for doing anything that goes against your will and your ways. Lord, give us the wisdom to identify our sins and the strength to turn away from them and come to a place of complete and total repentance. Lord, guide us to cling to you and love you more than we love the ways of the world. I pray that each of us will spend more time with you daily in prayer and in your word. As we spend more time with you may we find joy, peace, and fulfillment in ways that only you can give. We also, lift up the lost and we lift up to you all of our family and members and friends who do not know you as their Lord and Savior. We pray that they will receive your free gift of salvation, so that they too can enjoy the benefits of your forgives, grace, and unconditional love. In Jesus Name. Amen

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The Book of Revelation – Part I

The Book of Revelation – Part I

The Book of Revelation – Part I
Written by Felicia McKnight
6/8/16

Revelation‬ ‭22:7‬ ‭NKJV
“Behold, I am coming quickly! Blessed is he who keeps the words of the prophecy of this book.”
‭‭‬‬
I recently completed a phenomenal, 30 week, in depth study of the Book of Revelation. I must admit this is not a book that I would have been able to read and understand on my own. With all of the dragons, and beasts, and creatures with multiple limbs and eyes it can be quite confusing. It is a difficult book to understand, but I am grateful for the gifted teacher and amazing notes I had to make this study clearer and meaningful. I was once hesitant to read the book of Revelation, because there is a myth that Revelation is scary, however I did not find this book scary at all for those who are Christians. For those who do not believe in God and who do not call on Jesus as their Lord and Savior there is reason to be of great concern. I found Revelation to be a book of God’s unconditional, merciful love for mankind simply because of the multiple chances of repentance He gives to unbelievers.

“This is a revelation from Jesus Christ, which God gave him to show his servants the events that must soon take place. He sent an angel to present this revelation to his servant John, who faithfully reported everything he saw. This is his report of the word of God and the testimony of Jesus Christ.” (‭‭Revelation‬ ‭1:1-2‬ ‭NLT‬‬)

The book of Revelation is an unveiling to John. It is the unveiling of Jesus Christ in heaven. It is an unveiling of a series of events that must take place for Jesus to reclaim His kingdom. The book of Revelation promises that Jesus will return. Those of us who are in Christ will be able to spend eternity with Him. Those who are not will be separated from Jesus forever. A lot of evil and destruction will take place between now and Christ’s return, but in the end the children of God will be victorious over all!

One of the most intriguing parts of Revelation to me was Jesus’ seven letters to the seven churches in chapters 2 and 3. To each church He gave a word of encouragement, correction, direction, and discipline. It’s amazing that God will still do the same for us today. He knows the things we are doing well. God will remind us at times that we are on the right path in some areas of our life. In the area we are not He will send warning and other times discipline. As I read about each church I was blown away that the activity that took place in biblical days (95 A.D.) is still taking place today (2016).

“The LORD is merciful and gracious, Slow to anger, and abounding in mercy.” (Psalms‬ ‭103:8‬ ‭NKJV‬‬)

The book of Revelation is also a story of God’s mercy and judgement. Throughout the entire book God gives warning of the sin taking place. He then gives everyone the opportunity to repent. As I read through Revelation I wish I would have kept score of how many times God gave additional chances for people to repent. As I read I think of all the unsaved souls in the world. I wonder how many times does God have to display wrath for someone to eventually turn to Him? In our own personal lives, why does it take us so long for us to turn from sin? God is such a loving God. He gives us chance after chance to repent. He does things to get our attention. Some of us get it the first time. Then there are some of us who have to hit rock bottom and suffer consequences for us to turn from evil and cling to what is good. God uses the consequences of sin to lead us to a place of repentance.

I am going to press pause here and resume next week with a part II. Until then here are a few things to ponder on.

Will you confess and turn away from that habit or attitude that rejects God and His word? God gives multiple chances for repentance, but eventually a judgment day will come. Eventually it will be too late to get right. Those who chose to love a worldly life and follow the enemy will have a final destination, hell. Those of us who repent and choose Jesus will have a wonderful, rewarding, place in Heaven with Jesus for eternity!

Until we meet again, be blessed and be encouraged!

Prayer
Heavenly Father, thank you for your unconditional love towards us. Lord, some days we know we don’t deserved your goodness and the repeated chances that you give us. Thank you for the grace that covers us daily. Thank you for sending your one and only son, Jesus Christ on the cross to die for our sins. Thank you that His death made a way for us to wipe our slate clean from the sin that so easily entangles us. Lord, we lift up all those who do not have a personal relationship with you. We pray they will come to know you as their Lord and Savior Jesus Christ and experience the free grace of forgiveness. For those of us who know you, give us the wisdom and strength to repent and turn away from any sins that are not pleasing to you. Help us to cling to you and love you more than we love the world. In Jesus Name. Amen

Grace Not Grudges

Grace Not Grudges
Written by Felicia McKnight
8/13/14

Matthew 18:15 NIV
“If your brother or sister sins, go and point out their fault, just between the two of you. If they listen to you, you have won them over.

While attending my women’s devotional group meeting the Holy Spirt spoke to us and said, “We have to extend grace and not grudges.” It held a profound meaning to our topic of discussion; however it hit home with me and some experiences that I encountered in my own life.

I went to the doctor for a problem that I had been experiencing. I typically go to this particular office because I am able to get a same day appointment, and I am normally in and out within 45 minutes to one hour. On this particular day my wait time was extremely long. I went through the normal check in process. I was called back within 15 minutes. My vital signs were taken, and then I was placed in a room colder than Alaska….at least it felt that way. While in there shivering I brought a book I had been reading. I managed to read two long chapters of the book, check my work e-mail, my personal e-mail and stare at the wall and still no one had come in to see me. I had been at the appointment an hour already and I had grown frustrated, because I needed to get back to work for a meeting and I had missed lunch. I stepped out of the room to see if I had been forgotten about, and the medical assistant informed me I would be seen next. Next turned into another 15 minutes of waiting. I stepped out again and just as I was stepping out the doctor was coming out of the room and I was told she would be there shortly.

Now my disclaimer to this story is that I can be a confrontational person in the sense that if I experience a problem with someone or something I make it known at that time. I don’t like having to hold on to things for days or weeks unless I just have to. If I am extremely upset I have learned to allow time to cool off so that I don’t say words that can’t be taken back. In this case I was more frustrated than angry until the next scene of this story took place.

The doctor entered the room and I let her know I was extremely frustrated that I had to wait an hour for her to come into the room. While I waited no one bothered to inform me that the wait time was longer than normal. With an attitude she corrected me and told me that I had “only” waited 40 minutes and she proceeded to tell me about her issues and the issues at the clinic. As she proceeded to talk in an unprofessional tone my anger level quickly elevated. A million things were going on in my mind. First, of all I couldn’t believe the doctor was talking to me that way. As a patient I did not care about those things. I just wanted the medical team to display some customer service and for my problem to be treated. It’s safe to say I escalated from frustrated to angry really quick and my issue still had not been looked at. Also, running through my mind is that I had to remember I am also an employee of this organization. As mad as I was I had to pray for Jesus to guard my tongue so that I did not say anything that would misrepresent Christ nor get myself in trouble with my employer.

At this point I was so mad I didn’t even want this woman to touch me at all. Now I am angrier because I’ve wasted over an hour waiting and now debating with this woman who next had the nerve to ask if I still wanted to be treated. I took one of those deep breaths that is also a quick prayer, because I was trying my best not to go off on the lady and I was determined I was going to be treated but it wasn’t going to be by her. Before I could say anything she told me she did not need the attitude from me and was going to get her boss. Once again I was blown away because I did not curse this woman out nor did I have a nasty attitude with her. I just simply expressed my concern with the lack of customer service and now her attitude. For me my prayer was answered immediately, because little did she know my letter of complaint was already drafted in my head to him.

Her boss, the Medical Director, finally came in. At this point I was boiling yet I remained as calm as possible. Woo Sah! I let him know what had taken place and that her behavior was completely unprofessional and unacceptable. When he seen my badge he went on to give me some inside information as to why things were so slow that day. As a Human Resources professional who knows what goes on behind the scenes I could totally understand from an operational standpoint why things were backed up, but as a patient everything that had taken place was still unacceptable especially this woman’s behavior. The Medical Director was very compassionate and sympathetic. He treated me and I was well on my way. I had some other test that I had to do and I was even extended favor in the process so I didn’t have to wait even longer. Before I left the office the Medical Director asked if it was OK for him to bring the physician back in so we could all talk and that’s where our scripture for today comes in. Yes, I was going somewhere with this story.

“If your brother or sister sins, go and point out their fault, just between the two of you. If they listen to you, you have won them over. But if they will not listen, take one or two others along, so that ‘every matter may be established by the testimony of two or three witnesses.” (Matthew 18:15-16 NIV)

The physician returned to the room and we had a brief conversation. I reminded them that I may have been an employee of the organization and can understand the behind the scenes stuff that caused this incident. However as a patient and if I was anyone else this once again was not acceptable and I expressed all of my concerns about the entire visit. She apologized to me in front of the Medical Director. I did let him know that she has provided care to me before and I’ve never had this type of issue. Then something strange happened. The physician asked the Medical Director to leave so we could both talk. I had no clue what was about to take place next but let’s just say I was praying I remembered I was a Christian with whatever was going to take place.

The physician went on to tell me about the bad day she was having and her frustrations with being overbooked that day and some other things. She sincerely apologized and said that when I was upset my complaint was the spark that lit her fire causing her to become defensive and go off on me. When she explained herself that is when grace kicked in. Ultimately she was just having a bad day. I can understand that as we all have bad days from time to time that cause our emotions to get the best of us. I was able to receive her apology and let her know that there were no hard feelings. After we talked a little more she even hugged me as I walked out of the door. This experience ministered to me after I cooled off and looked for God in the situation.

As a Christian when I heard her excuses the first time I could have been more compassionate yet I was not. I was grateful that God used the Medical Director to allow the physician and myself to talk out our differences. I was also grateful that I was open to the idea as I know most people would not have been. We were able to work things out and now all is well.

My story was in a professional setting, but it certainly applies to all relationships. As we go through life we will encounter many confrontations with individuals. If we handle them appropriately then our Christian light can shine. Our scripture reminds us today that God wants us to work things out with others. He wants us to be at peace with one another. “Do all that you can to live in peace with everyone.” (Romans 12:18 NLT) Life is too short to hold on to the hurt, pain, and frustrations people cause us. It is a blessing when we can discuss our issues with the other party and walk away in peace. It is a blessing to be at peace with someone rather than walking around with negative feelings towards that person which often leads to unforgiveness or what we may call a grudge. “Do not seek revenge or bear a grudge against anyone among your people, but love your neighbor as yourself. I am the LORD.” (Leviticus 19:18 NIV)

I remember prior to my doctor’s office experience I went to someone to address their faults and the hurt they caused me. Out of that we were able to have a peaceful conversation and I was so full of peace. Since I genuinely cared about that friendship I didn’t want to keep walking in silence with those unresolved issues. I trusted that if I prayed and allowed God to go before me then all would be well.

I like the message version best:
“If a fellow believer hurts you, go and tell him—work it out between the two of you. If he listens, you’ve made a friend. (Matthew 18:15 Message)

When we find ourselves in challenging circumstances with people we have to pause and ask God how He wants us to handle the situation. According to scripture God wants us to attempt to work it out and be at peace with our neighbor. We can approach people in love and have civilized conversations to work out the matters of our heart. The bible says that if they listen then you know you have a friend. It is such a blessing, a joy and a peace when you are able to walk away with a matter resolved and a friendship still intact.

Who do you need to resolve matters with on today? Pray and ask God to guide you on your approach and prayerfully you too can walk away with a friend. Be Blessed and Encouraged on today.

Prayer
Heavenly Father, I lift up all of us who have experienced some hurt, disappointment, and frustration from someone we care about. For those of us holding on to it I pray that you will guide us on an approach to resolve these matters with that individual. Guard our mind and our lips to say the right words that will bring forth a heavenly resolution. We pray for both parties that hearts would be softened and receptive to the conversation and the matters at hand. We know that you are the God who heals and may your healing touch be on each of these relationships. Sometimes people do have bad days that cause the emotions to win over our character. Give us the wisdom and strength to extend forgiveness, compassion and grace. May grudges never be an option. In Jesus Name. Amen